Many fathers have an interest in being a regular part of their children’s lives. They want to be there for baseball games and dance recitals, parties and school spelling bees. They plan to be there to take care of their children when they’re sick or when they need help with homework.
Many men worry that they will not get the custody arrangements that they want during a divorce because it does often seem that women are more likely to get full or primary custody. The truth is that the courts now often prefer to see parents split custody time 50-50, or as close to it as possible, to make sure their children see both parents regularly.
Consistency is good for your child
Consistency is beneficial as your child grows and develops relationships with you and your ex-spouse. Showing that you are a reliable parent who consistently shows up on time and keeps your promises is going to give you a better chance of seeking the custody arrangements you want.
If the other parent is trying to seek a custody schedule that you feel limits your contact with your child, you have a right to propose your own arrangements. If you cannot come to an agreement, then you should prepare to make your case in court.
To do so successfully, it’s valuable to:
- Show that you have made your children a priority and have a comfortable space for them in your home
- Get to know your child better. Know their interests, teachers, medical conditions and other important facts about them
- Show the court that you’re reasonable and have tried to work out a custody schedule that is fair to you and the other parent
- Come to court dressed to impress, which shows that you understand the importance of a custody hearing
- Get witness testimonies or letters about your role in your child’s life
Both fathers and mothers should have the same right to see their children under typical circumstances. If you are concerned about custody, make sure you take steps to prepare a case for why you should have the custody schedule you desire.